5 Steps to Actually Be That Confident and Attractive Guy - This Is Why the College/School Star Is So Confident

5 Steps to Actually Be That Confident and Attractive Guy

I was a shy guy growing up. 

Due to that, I watched countless videos on how I can build confidence. There were tons of videos out there on how to look confident, but no one really talked about how to feel and actually be confident from the inside out. So today, I am making a video myself that will actually tell you how to be confident and not just fake it. Let’s cut through all that bullshit advice people told me as a kid and get into how you can not only look but actually be confident.

Number 1: Stop Overthinking and Start Doing.

Confidence won't just show up because you sit there thinking about it. If you’re waiting to feel confident before you take action, you’ll be waiting and only waiting. You build confidence by doing things that require courage—maybe by speaking up to a girl, trying something new, or making decisions even when you're unsure. The more you act, the more you prove to yourself that you can handle it. So, quit waiting for the “perfect” moment, and just start.

Number 2: Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Be Comfortable in Your Own Skin!

We’ve all been scrolling through social media, looking at people who seem like they’ve got their lives together. We compare how far left behind we are from them and how they have perfect lives. Boys, they have worked for it, and some of them honestly fake their lifestyles. For a minute, just stop feeling sad about how far back you are from other people and actually do something to make it better. Maybe by making your own YouTube channel, like I am doing. The minute you stop comparing yourself to others, you start seeing your own worth. You stop trying to live their life and focus on making your life the best it can be. That’s when you start to feel confident—when you appreciate your own value.

Number 3: Stop Apologizing for Every F#kin (beep effect) Thing.

Too many of us walk around apologizing for just existing. Whether it’s downplaying our ideas, saying sorry when we didn’t do anything wrong, or just staying quiet to avoid ruffling feathers, it all comes from a lack of confidence. Just stop apologizing for little things and bring some self-worth. Do what you wish and speak up. Share your thoughts and own your space. You don’t need permission to be who you are. But this doesn’t mean you become reckless and start doing whatever you want. Know your limits and do what is right for the moment and for yourself.

Number 4: Start with Small Wins. 

A lot of people think confidence comes from some huge, life-changing achievement, but that’s not how it works. Real confidence comes from the small stuff—the little wins. Maybe just join a gym and hit a PR every month. It’s about setting goals you can actually hit. Each small win builds momentum. You start to believe in yourself more with every step forward. And trust me, those small wins turn into big confidence later.

Number 5: Act and Speak Only When Necessary. 

Here’s the deal: confident people don’t walk into a room wondering if they belong there or not. They just act like they do normally. Don't just fake pretend to be cool, looking at your phone with that slouchy posture of yours. Stop tiptoeing around, worrying about how you’re being perceived. When you speak and act with intention—like your thoughts, ideas, and presence matter—you show the world that you’re here for a reason. And the more you do that, the more you’ll believe it yourself.

And with that, these were the only five things you need to take care of to actually build confidence and not fake it.

Hope this information was helpful for you